The Best Gift for Your Husband…and You!

Posted on Oct 26, 2017 Topic : Women's Christian Living
Posted by : Erin Smalley

Ladies, we have an enormous opportunity in our marriages. Our husbands long to hear us say what they are doing right instead of what they are doing wrong. They need to hear what we love about them—instead of what we don’t. And when you begin to fulfill this need for affirmation in your husband’s life, you will start to realize the level of influence you have in your marriage.

When you feel loved and cared for by your husband, your heart feels full and complete, doesn’t it? Those actions also affect your husband’s heart and stir something in him that creates a “cycle” of caring between the two of you.

My girlfriend Kate called me recently and squealed with excitement as she told me what her husband had done upon her return from a recent trip. Randy greeted her in the driveway, dressed up and holding flowers for her. He carried her suitcase into a clean house. He’d cleaned it “spick-and-span” she said. He had prepared lunch for them and then sat and listened to her ramble about her trip for a solid two hours. Dreamy, right?

Now before you start down the road of envy and jealousy and start thinking, “I wish my husband would do that just once!” let me tell you about Kate. She has spent hours talking to me about how to love her husband better. She has prayed endlessly for this man and loved him sacrificially for all five years I have known her. And here she was, her heart overflowing as she shared with me all he had done for her!

When we feel loved, our hearts flood open, and as a result, we want to give even more. Although there are no guarantees of his response, your husband will certainly be surprised as you begin to respond differently in your relationship. Whether you show him more affection or appreciation through your actions, affirm him through your words, take notice when he does the things you asked, or join in and enjoy an activity he is interested in, he will receive what he needs most from you. It will not only spur him on, but it will also fulfill your longing for a deeper connection.

Whether your marriage is vibrant or you’ve “lost that loving feeling,” you can discover how to love sacrificially and meet your husband’s needs the way only you can!

Take the challenge to become a wife of influence. You will see how it impacts you and your husband and, most importantly, your marriage. What your husband needs most from you is fully within your possession and your ability—are you willing to give him this gift?